I have three children. As I write this, they are 12 (Will), 8 (Ben), and 5 (Maddie). They completely rock. They bring me great joy. They add tremendous flavor to our family. I also blame them for most of my grey hair though I doubt that is true. And they could not be more different.
My sister is a Meyers-Briggs expert so we have learned some about personalities. Without going into a lot of detail, I am an INTJ. My wife is an ISFJ and so is my oldest son. He is literally the male version of my wife – personality-wise.
My middle son is an ESFP (I think) and is exploding with creativity and energy. The thought to pick something up has never once occurred to him – ever.
My baby girl is definitely an extrovert, but I’m not sure on the rest yet. However, she is girlie and tough as nails at the same time.
My family spends a lot of time together, which I love. However, I don’t spend much time one-on-one with my kids. So one of my goals for 2015 is to spend one-on-one time every month with each child. I want to know them. I want to champion the best in them. I want to build a rock solid relationship with them. I want to be a safe place for them. All of these ideals require time.
In January, my son Ben and I were trying to figure out what we’d do together. He came up with the idea that he wanted a blog like his daddy. The kid is so creative and funny that I thought this would be a great outlet for him. So we created www.ben-barron.com where he and I create funny videos. Feel free to take a couple of minutes and go check it out – and keep in mind that he is just 8.
So here are the 9 steps that any parent can follow to pursue the hearts of their children.