So many settle for mediocrity. I have done it myself. I despise that place. You can see others around you excelling at what they do – what you could do. You may find yourself asking, “Is it even possible for me to have that kind of success?” Good question.
I started playing the guitar when I was 14 years old. I was looking for something that I could be good at. I had already realized it wasn’t going to be sports. I took a few months of lessons and then kept playing. By the time I got to college, I was OK at best.
Then Dave Matthews and Tim Reynolds played a show at my college. They were incredible. Two guys with their acoustic guitars on stage playing. No band. Just them.
I heard a great story this week that has had my wheels turning ever since. I’m going to share it with you in a minute.
But first, I want you to consider how you talk to yourself – in your head. I think I’ve heard someone call this self-talk.
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The way I talk to myself holds me back all the time. My first couple of years in commercial real estate, it held me way back. I would talk myself out of making a call. I would decide for a prospect that they weren’t interested…before I made the call.
This self-talk makes a difference. What does the talk in your head sound like? Consider this story.
A rich oil sheik decided he wanted to learn how to play golf. So he built one of the world’s best golf courses. It was perfect – gorgeous.
The sheik then invited a US club pro to spend two weeks with him on his new golf course giving him lessons. The pro accepted the invitation.
So the Sheik sent his private jet to collect the pro and bring him to the Middle East. Once there, the pro spent two weeks in complete opulence. Everything that he could have wanted was available to him.
The pro loved the course and very much enjoyed teaching the Sheik.
After 2 weeks, the pro was boarding the private jet to go back to America. The Sheik, being very pleased with his two weeks of lessons, offered the pro anything.
The pro responded and told the Sheik that this had been the best 2 weeks of his life. His hospitality and generosity were payment enough.
The Sheik insisted, asking the pro if he collected anything.
If you are reading this blog, it is likely that you want more. You want to improve your productivity, your prospecting, your presence, your something. Nobody gets up every morning with the goal of being mediocre. Ultimately, you want to dominate your market. But the truth is, you can’t.
My kids are in the driveway right now playing basketball with the neighbor kids. When I was their age, the Bad Boys version of the Detroit Pistons were winning championships. I remember playing in the driveway and pretending I was Isaiah Thomas and Joe Dumars.
I wanted to dominate a basketball game the way they did. But I topped out at 5’7” with less than average athletic ability and a suspect jump shot. I was never going to dominate a basketball game.
And you are never going to dominate your market because of these 7 reasons.
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I have three children. As I write this, they are 12 (Will), 8 (Ben), and 5 (Maddie). They completely rock. They bring me great joy. They add tremendous flavor to our family. I also blame them for most of my grey hair though I doubt that is true. And they could not be more different.
My sister is a Meyers-Briggs expert so we have learned some about personalities. Without going into a lot of detail, I am an INTJ. My wife is an ISFJ and so is my oldest son. He is literally the male version of my wife – personality-wise.
My middle son is an ESFP (I think) and is exploding with creativity and energy. The thought to pick something up has never once occurred to him – ever.
My baby girl is definitely an extrovert, but I’m not sure on the rest yet. However, she is girlie and tough as nails at the same time.
My family spends a lot of time together, which I love. However, I don’t spend much time one-on-one with my kids. So one of my goals for 2015 is to spend one-on-one time every month with each child. I want to know them. I want to champion the best in them. I want to build a rock solid relationship with them. I want to be a safe place for them. All of these ideals require time.
In January, my son Ben and I were trying to figure out what we’d do together. He came up with the idea that he wanted a blog like his daddy. The kid is so creative and funny that I thought this would be a great outlet for him. So we created www.ben-barron.com where he and I create funny videos. Feel free to take a couple of minutes and go check it out – and keep in mind that he is just 8.
So here are the 9 steps that any parent can follow to pursue the hearts of their children.
I got my first question from the new voicemail feature last week and I wanted to respond right away. And even though the question from Allen Buchanan was in jest, I got to share my fool-proof 4 step system to a winning March Madness bracket.
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